20 Mar Cynthia and Scott
We first heard about Angels on television two years ago. We began talking about fostering, googled Angels and the next thing you know we are in the training program.
We decided to foster to provide the kind of family that every child deserves. I was raised by my grandparents along with my sister. My mom was young and we were very lucky to grow up with the love and support of our aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents. Because of this I felt I could relate to the children and the birth parents- I had a unique way to help. My husband grew up in a very stable, loving, predictable family; my in-laws are still married and very supportive of our fostering journey. With both of our backgrounds we have the history that helps us relate added to the experience of raising older children of our own.
We did not foster solely to adopt but felt if the right situation presented itself, we would be happy to add to our family, which we hope to do very soon.
My most memorable fostering story is with our four year old, “Lucas”. Six months ago he could barely speak and he was tested at just below the two year old level. I read to Lucas every night and the alphabet decorates the wall in his room. Just the other night as I finished reading a book he said to me, “CC I love my family,” and he began to name everyone. It was sweet, and then all of a sudden he said, “hey I see a C on the wall like in my book, and an S, and an L like in my name.” It brought tears to my eyes; we will never forget that moment. In six months, we have given this little boy more than he had in the first three and half years of life.
The biggest challenge we’ve faced is relearning how to parent. We have three grown children, who are healthy, happy and thriving. I know the basics when it comes to parenting, but when it comes to fostering an abused, neglected, emotionally or medically fragile child you have to throw out all the old parenting tools and relearn new ones. We have discovered that parenting approaches vary in our home from hour to hour, day to day with different children who have different needs.
Our older children have come to realize that material things are not as important as they once thought. A smile, tickle or hug is more cherished than any toy. Every child needs to feel safe, secure and loved before they can begin to heal. It doesn’t matter how big your house is, it’s the size of your heart that matters most.